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I'm turning 21 this Thursday. Angie commented on my last post that she had always thought I was older and I have to admit, I'm a little surprised myself sometimes. Not to sound completely full of myself, but I've done a lot of stuff. Sometimes A lot of times I get down on myself about how much I'm not getting done but when I stop and think about all of the things I have achieved, I feel pretty awesome. I own a business. I've been completely self-employed for nearly 2 years. I've built freelance careers as both a web designer and a writer. I married my best friend. I became a mama to the coolest, sweetest little boy in the whole world. I have been told by several of my friends and family members just how much they admire me and love me. I'm always really surprised to hear things like that!

Feeling good about the things I've already done at my age makes me absolutely ecstatic, because what will the list look like when I'm 30? 40? 70?? What more will I have learned? Who am I going to meet? I'm so excited! I still have so much life left, which is the most exciting thing of all to me. There are a few things that I've learned that I try my best to live by- truths that, when I keep them in mind and act accordingly, life tends to unfold marvelously. Maybe this will look different on my next birthday or in 5 birthdays, but here is what feels true to my heart so far.

  1. Failure is nothing to be afraid of. For one, it's just not that bad when it does happen. It hurts, but just like when you fell off your bike as a kid, you just have to get back up and keep trying. Anyone who laughs or judges is cruel. Anyone who tells you to give up is misguided.
  2. People are only human. Try to forgive them. Don't take any shit, but don't hold people's mistakes against them. We're all here to grow & flow. Even if someone you idolized screws up, it doesn't mean everything you learned from them is null. Even your heroes are just humans learning how to live, just like you. Isn't that wonderful?
  3. Respond with love in all situations. I've shared this before but I need to again because it's never failed me! Love yourself, love everyone and don't regret a thing.
  4. What other people think doesn't matter one bit. Dr. Seuss had it right! “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” Just do your thing joyfully and you will attract people who are just as in love with life and the haters will fade away (or better yet, start feelin' the love!).
  5. Complaining is useless. If it's really important, use the energy to find a solution. If not, let it go. Find something to be happy about.
  6. Don't try to change people. It's no one's responsibility to mold themselves into your world and it's not your responsibility to decide how others should be. Your own life should keep you busy enough.
  7. There is more than one right way to live. There are many! That's why there are so many different kinds of wonderful people.
  8. You attract what you are. If you want to attract friendship, be a good friend. If you want to attract love, love yourself. I think I knew this when I was a kid, and then forgot it during my teenage years. Oops.
  9. Not knowing is okay. Don't worry about a thing. Love and take action and everything will be just fine.
  10. We are all responsible for our own happiness. No one can make you happy, and you can't fix anyone.
  11. When people treat you badly, it's because they are messed up. Stooping to their level only reinforces disrespect, and that's no good. Feel sorry for them. And move on.
  12. Say what you need to say because whatever you are afraid of is not nearly as painful as holding onto it forever and wondering what could have been.
  13. Showing gratitude is absolutely necessary. Whether it's people, things or feelings. Write them down, say them, show it somehow! Be grateful! And you'll find that you'll find more and more things in your life to be grateful for.
  14. The media deliberately tries to brainwash us. That's a fact. Most people think they want expensive cars and designer luggage and slim, tan bodies but ultimately that stuff doesn't matter at all. It's good to take breaks from being bombarded with advertisements– or stop altogether. (If designer duds & tanning spray are your thing, fine! But it's good to be mindful about why.)
  15. Plants are good. Eat lots of them. Rub them all over your body. Heal yourself with them.
  16. Spending time with children is good for the soul. And I might be a little biased, being a mama bear and all. Children are amazed by the world and it's good to be amazed.
  17. When circumstances force you to spend time with someone who rubs you the wrong way, finding things you like about them makes it a lot more enjoyable.
  18. Ditto with situations. Sometimes we have to do boring stuff. Find joy in it somehow. Don't distract yourself from life or “wait it out.” What a waste!
  19. Life is not a competition. Do and be your best and don't try to be better than anyone else. There's enough success to go around!
  20. Be brave! Big choices lead to big things!
  21. Flow. Everything changes, all the time. Don't get too attached to the way things are and don't despair if you're not where you want to be, because this too shall pass. Find joy in everything, all the time. Bloom forever!
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Kylie Worthington is an herbalist, wellness educator, and mother passionate about equipping women to approach health holistically in a modern, mechanical world. She founded Everblossom to serve as a resource for healthy, meaningful, balanced living.

8 Responses

  1. This list had to be shared. 😀 I’m trying hard to live by #9 right now especially.

  2. Angie – Me too! I wish I remembered all this stuff, all the time!

  3. mmm… I don’t know how to love myself is a realization I’ve been coming to lately.
    I love kids, even though I am not a mom and also worked at a very yuppie frequented ice cream shop (which would turn most people off kids entirely). I really relate to their curiosity and sensitivity– we should all be allowed to cry in public or throw tantrums or ask questions all the time. too bad how many people lose touch with that part of themselves : (

  4. Good luck, melina bee! Being gentle with yourself as you would with a child might be a step in the right direction when it comes to loving yourself. It’s definitely a journey, isn’t it?

  5. I just found this post (and your blog). Love it!!! As I was reading the start of this post was feeling really bummed out because I’m almost 28 and often feel like there’s so many things I haven’t done and almost like my 20s have been wasted. But like you, when I stop to reflect it becomes clear that I have done a lot. I’ve got my degree plus two diplomas (now on my third lol – treating my career path as an experiment!). I’ve managed a fashion store, edited medical journals, been a teacher and tutor for several years helping many young people, and a lifecoach to several clients, helping them achieve goals. I’ve been a girlfriend and run a home as well. Ive travelled to Australia, the States, Europe. I’ve dreamed and rediscovered myself. I guess once you stop and think about it there are so many things. My biggest regret is that I haven’t written very much, but I have novels and blog posts welling up inside me. I am inspired by your own career and attitude at such a young age. Thanks for such an inspirational post – I can’t wait to make my way through the rest of this lovely blog!! 🙂

  6. I just found this post (and your blog). Love it!!! As I was reading the start of this post was feeling really bummed out because I’m almost 28 and often feel like there’s so many things I haven’t done and almost like my 20s have been wasted. But like you, when I stop to reflect it becomes clear that I have done a lot. I’ve got my degree plus two diplomas (now on my third lol – treating my career path as an experiment!). I’ve managed a fashion store, edited medical journals, been a teacher and tutor for several years helping many young people, and a lifecoach to several clients, helping them achieve goals. I’ve been a girlfriend and run a home as well. Ive travelled to Australia, the States, Europe. I’ve dreamed and rediscovered myself. I guess once you stop and think about it there are so many things. My biggest regret is that I haven’t written very much, but I have novels and blog posts welling up inside me. I am inspired by your own career and attitude at such a young age. Thanks for such an inspirational post – I can’t wait to make my way through the rest of this lovely blog!! 🙂

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