What happened when I got over myself and replaced fear with love.

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Fear used to drive everything I did.

Fear that I wouldn't be accepted my others led me to cut others down to make myself look better. It led me to say whatever it took and do whatever it took to belong.

Fear that I would never have enough led me to steal what wasn't mine and constantly lust after things – always wanting more, and more, and more.

Fear that I was messing it all up – for myself, for my kids, for EVERYONE led me to question every decision I made, always doubting, fretting, second-guessing and not really getting anywhere.

Something powerful happened when I realized that LOVE ALWAYS WINS.

Fear made me hate myself. Love helps me realize that… there's more important things to do.

There's only so much I can screw up. Love is gonna win anyway.

And suddenly, it all makes sense.

I replaced fear with love and stopped comparing myself to others, because I'm enough and they're enough and my only job is do do what I know to be right in any given moment, which is love. It's always love.

I replaced fear with love and I stopped judging others because none of us have it all together and that's okay. I started extending the grace that I'm so grateful to receive and realizing that there are so many things I do wrong that I DON'T EVEN KNOW ABOUT. It's true for everyone and grace is the only solution.

I replaced fear with love and I stopped gossiping about people because what other people choose to do with their lives became irrelevant because now I was filled with purpose and hope and…. love.

I replaced fear with love and made beautiful connections with souls who uplift and don't tear down.

I stopped acting like everything is fine all the time, because frankly, LIFE IS INSANE and sometimes I need to cry, but that's okay and I'm still enough.

Basically, my entire life blossomed when I stopped poisoning my soul with fear and instead nourishing it with love.

I replaced fear with love and I stopped gossiping about people because what other people choose to do with their lives became irrelevant because now I was filled with purpose and hope and.... love.

I replaced fear with love and everything changed.

But suddenly it became uncomfortable to be around a lot of people in my life. Apparently one of the favorite past times of a lot of people I know is to talk shit about all the people we know.

And the fear was back:

“What are they saying about me? How are they judging ME? Because they obviously ARE… they judge EVERYONE.”

So I replaced it with love:

I remember how painful it was to live this way. I remember how anxious I was all the time. How can I love this person right now?”

And it led to doing things life shifting the conversation in a more positive direction. Sticking up for people who are being shit-talked. Doing my absolute best to uplift whoever I'm with.

Is it executed perfectly? Of course not. I have days – LORD, DO I HAVE DAYS.

But I'm doing my best and that's enough.

And it's an easy mantra to live by:

“How can I love right now?”





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Kylie Worthington is an herbalist, wellness educator, and mother passionate about equipping women to approach health holistically in a modern, mechanical world. She founded Everblossom to serve as a resource for healthy, meaningful, balanced living.

19 Responses

  1. This is so beautiful! I have let fear get in the way before too, Loved this, thank you.

  2. Thanks for sharing!!! This is wonderful and I’m so happy for you!! I went through a similar process. Healing from the hurts of high school took me a long time, until I realized I wasn’t loving well back then either. Who are all the people I didn’t nurture and welcome? And then I healed and that’s how I see it now: how can I welcome and love each person?

  3. You, my dear, are in a beautiful place. So many are not. Sometimes me included. This is a great reminder – thank you!

    • Oh, I still step out of that place at times, too – don’t get me wrong. But those times are becoming fewer + more far between. I’m so grateful. <3

  4. I think fear is every woman’s battle. I so enjoyed meeting you at Shiftcon and noticed your sweet and loving spirit. I’m glad we’ve connected!

  5. This really made me step back for a second and look at my own feelings. I have a habit of saying “It’s OK” or “I’m OK” when things certainly aren’t. I always wanted to fit in. It’s important to look at oneself and love what you see.

    Thank you for this!

  6. When you come from a place of love, the whole world changes.

  7. Jennifer M.

    So smart to live with love and let go of the fear. Love this.

  8. Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.

  9. Dear, you are SO strong for sharing this personal story with the world. It’s so inspiring and it’s caused me to reflect on my life and how I can improve myself and replace fear with love.

    Found you through the Firework People blog link up!

    Rashae
    http://www.abbigaylerashae.com

  10. Fear is such a horrible thing to deal with! I’m so happy for you that you’ve been able to move on from it! Congrats! 🙂

  11. Hello from #fireworkpeople! This is SO powerful and beautiful. You are so right… love always wins. No matter what dark situation we are going through, love is not going to leave us. Thank you for the positive words and for reminding me that grace and love are always there for me.

  12. Wow, I totally relate to this. Beautiful. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable in this post!!

    xotawni
    #fireworkpeople

  13. This. Post. <3

  14. This. is. amazing! I’ve been thinking a lot about fear and how it holds me back. Fear is like a secret to me, something I need to cover up because someone might realize i’m not good enough. I love that you replaced it with love. I am totally going to try that the next time I am fearful of something. Instead of getting all anxious, I am going to ask myself how I can love incorporate love into this situation. love love love! 🙂

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