Perfectionism is Impossible… and That’s Okay

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Hello all! As Everblossom’s newest contributor, I wanted to introduce myself real fast and talk about my history with practical wellness (physical and mental). I’m in my early twenties and I’ve been working in health and fitness writing for the past few years – so I’m by no means a seasoned expert, but give me another decade or two!

I don’t know if self-confidence issues just come with the territory of being young and female, but if they do, the stereotype got me for sure. For most of my life I was a huge perfectionist, and – as perfectionists often do – I spent more time thinking about the things that were wrong with me than appreciating the good things. And that mindset stuck around for years. But finally, I got sick of it, started giving some serious thought to life, and came to a realization that ended up changing my perspective:

Each of us only gets to be one person. We get one mind and one body – that’s it. And we can spend all our time wishing we were someone else – or we can use that time to make the most of the opportunities that we do have. It makes no sense to even think about the things you can’t change; in the grand scope of things, it doesn’t really matter that your nose is too big, your legs are too short, or your asthma means you can’t run marathons (I can run maybe 1/2 mile without an inhaler…on a good day). It’s honestly just not possible to be perfect, and that’s okay.

Perfection is impossible... and that's okay!

But you know what is possible? Getting healthier than you are now. Stronger than you are now. Smarter than you are now. Acquiring new skills. Improving old relationships. Working toward your full potential. Basically, make a choice to invest your energy in the areas of your life you can improve instead of wasting it with self-pity. These days, I like to think of every day as a competition with the person I was yesterday. (Pro tip: you win some, you lose some.)

Mental wellness is really the top priority I think people should focus on when they first get serious about self-improvement – but the mental is inseparably connected to the physical. I don’t mean only psychologically (self-image, etc.) but also biologically. How you treat your body makes a difference in your brain. So, nutrition-wise I’m all about eating clean: vegetables, fruits, grains, nothing processed, no sugar. I also love getting outdoors to hike or kayak (or run – my lungs don’t love it, but I do), though I’ll settle for the gym when weather doesn’t accommodate other options. Once I established a routine of getting active every day, it’s felt weird to miss any! Exercise definitely makes a difference in my attitude – thanks, endorphins.

In conclusion (I just realized this sounds like a five-paragraph essay now, but c’est la vie), Everblossom is a great community and I’m glad for the chance to be part of it. I’m looking forward to seeing where my road takes me next, and to joining you for a mile or two of yours.

Until next time,
Kate

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Kate is a health, fitness, and wellness writer from New Jersey. She holds her degree in Professional Writing and loves hiking, grammar, and vegetarian sushi.

5 Responses

  1. So glad you are here, Kate!

  2. Great perspective! You’re right, exercise definitely makes things different, and many times, better, and especially, if you’ve got great weather to boot to enjoy a walk or hike or run outside.

  3. The mind body connection is impossible to ignore for me these days! One isn’t well if the other one isn’t too!

  4. Age has never meant anything, Kaitlin. Wisdom comes from young and old alike. We must be in the same brain wave because I just posted a very similar comment on my FB page. Any improvement is great, and we each move at our pace. It’s all successful. It’s a lovely article.

  5. Love this post. Thank you so much for sharing. I am also in my early 20’s, and self esteem is certainly an issue. It can be difficult to accept my body where it is at (physical and mental health), but I try to remind myself that I can always work on improving, and it will be a slow process.

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