How to prioritize the right self care practices

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Self care gets a lot of coverage but it's usually presented in a really broad way. Lists of activities like meditation and applying skincare abound. I love those, but what doesn't get talked about as much is how to prioritize these practices. Cleansing your pores with a charcoal face mask is a lovely act of self care, but it’s not going to improve your life enough to matter if you're starving to death or battling depression.

Unfortunately those in most urgent need of self care are likely overwhelmed, scattered, exhausted – a difficult place to make decisions from. When that's the case, it's important to prioritize our needs as we approach self care.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is a helpful visual representation of how all of our major human needs should be prioritized in order for us to thrive.

You can learn more about Maslow's hierarchy of needs here. 

When planted, a seed doesn't sprout up into a fruit-producing tree immediately; the fruit would be far too heavy for its young fibers to support. The eager plant would collapse under the weight of its giving.

Instead, the seed creates roots to hold it firmly to the ground when the winds blow. It grows tall and strong. Then it begins bearing fruit.


This framework helps us do the same in our own lives, so that we can ultimately live in a way that feels good, makes a positive impact, and is in harmony.

It's useful when we feel overwhelmed – not really sure where to start or what steps to take to feel better. It's a tool we can use to recognize our most important needs in each moment, meet them, and enjoy more consistency when it comes to feeling well.

Seeds: Physiological Needs

  • Are you getting adequate nutrition?
  • Are you getting enough quality rest and sleep?
  • Do you have consistent access to safe, healthy shelter?
  • Are you able to breathe fresh, clean air?
  • Are you warm enough?

Roots: Security + Social Needs

  • Do you feel safe the vast majority of time when you're going about life as usual?
  • Do you feel confident that you'll be able to keep a roof over your head and food on the table?
  • Do you have steady employment and income that you can count on?
  • Do you have people in your life that you could count on to help you in an emergency?
  • Do you have friends and family members that you enjoy spending time with?
  • Do you feel loved and appreciated for who you really are?

Fruits: Self Esteem + Actualization

  • Do you like yourself?
  • Do you have time to enjoy your favorite hobbies and interests?
  • Do you make a positive impact on the lives of others?
  • Do you participate in spiritual practices that inspire you and bring you peace?
  • Are you able to pursue ongoing learning and educational opportunities?
  • Do you feel like you're living out your ‘calling' in life?
  • Does your career bring you fulfillment?

You can see how meeting all of these needs in the correct order is the best way to feel well consistently.

It's most useful during the Seeds and Roots stages of personal growth, because those unmet needs are most likely to cause overwhelm and discord in our lives.

How to Use the Seeds, Roots, Fruits Strategy

When you feel overwhelmed, you can ask yourself these questions and support yourself the way you really need to in each moment. As you continue using this approach, you'll become more mindful about what your needs are in each moment. This is a self care practice. Over time, you'll find that you feel better more consistently and are more in tune with yourself. Like a plant that's been expertly tended, you'll be more resilient, produce better and more fruit, and become as beautiful and vibrant as you were meant to be.


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Kylie Wiser is an herbalist specializing in skincare and women's health. She shares recipes and resources on Everblossom to help others live a more holistic lifestyle. She lives in Fargo, ND with her huge family and lots of houseplants.

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